Category Archives: Relationship


By Alex Santiago

Love makes men weak! Turns a hard hearted man into a soft man.

If a man falls in love and is unable to get the soft heart, he’s not truly in love. When a man falls in love, he already starts envisioning spending the rest of his life with her. When a man truly falls in love, he is able to forgive the past faults of his partner and potentially the current faults in hopes of his vision coming true.

There are a lot of credited sources out there, proclaiming, the top ten or five things men look for in a women. Unfortunately, to break it to you! there is only two things men look for in women. One, beauty; seen through confidence and two, appreciation.

Most people wouldn’t understand number one, because no one has a clear definition of beauty, yes there is a written down definition but not everyone define beauty the same way. A journalist by the name Esther Honig asked to 27 artist, from 27 different countries to photoshop 1 photo and make it beautiful. At the end of her photoshop project Before & After” what she received back were 27 different definitions of what beauty looked like from 27 different countries. Esther Honig project, proves that beauty isn’t subjective or objective instead its based upon the outer appearance, the amount of makeup a woman decides to wears or the amount of skin she chooses to reveals or not reveal.

It’s like saying a person’s resume will always guarantee a great job, when in reality a resume only serves to get the applicant through the door for an an interview. Another way to look at it is, Sometimes the best applicant “person to date” isn’t the best person to be in a relationship with. I would like to make it clear, I do not believe the main component to a woman’s beauty should be based upon the kind or amount of make up she decides to wear on a particular hour in a given day.


Yes, appreciation! A woman that is able to show as much interest and appreciation in a man, as the man is showing to the woman, or vice versa, now that’s a woman to keep. Men are simple creatures, if they say something is one way, they mean it, but if they hesitate on a particular issue or topic that means that aren’t sure and need more time to process.

I am fully aware in any given relationship there is always one person that tends to like the other person more; sometimes over appreciation causes a great relationship to end, no one should be punished for showing to much appreciation especially if two parties agree to be in a relationship and also agree to having identical feelings towards each other. But Thats a blog for a different day.

Love will always make a men weak, they will never admit it but they know it’s true.

I’m a vivid example. I almost loose my senses for a woman that just wants me to have her body but not her heart.

If you are dating a woman be sure about what she really wants from you. She might want just sex but not love. If this is your case, fall in love with such kind of woman will only take you to a heart breaking end. But if you really want her you need to play her game without getting hurt. Don’t give in the process your 💓 heart. Take my advice!


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Romance Scams

By A. Santiago

More and more Americans are turning to dating websites and mobile apps in hopes of finding love and companionship. A Pew Research Center study revealed that nearly 60 percent of U.S. adults consider online dating a good way to meet people, and, one of the most popular dating sites, says people 50 and older represent its fastest-growing share of users. But seeking romantic bliss online can have a major downside: Cyberspace is full of scammers eager to take advantage of lonely hearts.

The con works something like this: You post a dating profile and up pops a promising match — good-looking, smart, funny and personable. This potential mate claims to live in another part of the country or to be abroad for business or a military deployment. But he or she seems smitten and eager to get to know you better, and suggests you move your relationship to a private channel like email or a chat app.

Over weeks or months you feel yourself growing closer. You make plans to meet in person, but for your new love something always comes up. Then you get an urgent request. There’s an emergency (a medical problem, perhaps, or a business crisis), and your online companion needs you to wire money quickly. He or she will promise to pay it back, but that will never happen. Instead, the scammer will keep asking for more until you finally realize you’ve been had.

Phony suitors also seek out targets on social media, and they are increasingly active. The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) received more than 25,000 reports about romance scams in 2019, a nearly threefold increase since 2015. Victims’ losses totaled $201 million, almost 40 percent more than in 2018 and the most for any type of consumer fraud.

The older the victim, the heavier the financial toll, according to the FTC — the median individual loss for people aged 70 and over was $10,000, compared to $2,600 for all victims.

Romance scammers are smooth operators and can take their time to set their trap. Watch out for these red flags if you’re looking for love and companionship online


Pepper Schwartz Ph.D.

Pepper Schwartz PH.D

Senator John Enseign and Governor Mark Sanford have joined the ranks of sexually straying political husbands…a pretty crowded category. Both men have been caught with their pants down, even as they have pontificated about sexual morality to the rest of us.

It may be why watching them get busted is a guilty pleasure.

Of course none of us can afford to be sanctimonious. We all know that there is no one who is pure in all categories, even if we can pass muster in a few. Maybe stepping outside the marriage isn’t our temptation-but what about private drinking, a little random shop lifting, or binging on food? Most of us know what it’s like to do something we don’t approve of, or struggle with a backstage life that has nothing to do with what is happening in front of the curtain.

Somehow though, we come down hardest on someone who has sinned sexually. Even though we know the nature of human beings is to fall in love or lust unwisely, we don’t like to admit it- and we are afraid of condoning it. We don’t want to be the perpetrator or the victim. Denial of it as a common human fragility is usually our way of denying our own vulnerability to temptation, flattery or an impulsive and compelling crush.

We know the rules- and we respect them. But we also know that those rules are harder to keep than we pretend they are. The fact is that even if most men and women are monogamous, a huge percentage are not-and that percentage grows when you allow for the fact that ambitious, hard driving, fame seeking people are not too likely to be laid back and uninterested in their sexual appetites and emotional connections. They are, let’s face it, a high risk group.

So, here’s where I stand on this situation. I actually felt sorry for Governor Sanford- it was clear to me that he had deeply loved his Argentinean lady, that he felt he had sinned against God, himself, his wife and his family, and he was miserable about everything that had happened. He wanted punishment, and his frankness and openness about his behavior was testament to his desire for full disclosure and censure. 

Well, if you watched his news conference, you know he got his full measure of humiliation. And his withdrawal from GOP leadership will be part of his fall not only from grace but from power. Still, we might consider a measure of forgiveness, no matter what his wife and family decide to do (since their pain is much great than ours). We could acknowledge that the power of sex is great, the flesh is weak-and the discovery of the marital betrayal has its own agonizing consequences. That should be enough pain for those who want to exact it.

One thing, however, I would like to see from our famous miscreants: a little less sanctimoniousness about sexual issues and a lot more compassion when it comes to relevant social policy. The heart has its own urgencies, and our brain is sometimes no match for our  endocrine system. Let’s just acknowledge that fact and be a bit more understanding and compassionate when the next person -or sexuality related social issue-becomes a headline



Updated: March 3, 2020 – 7:58 am

Recently FOX23 has been reporting about massage parlor’s offering sexual favors. Now, it looks like cyber space will give those shops a run for their money. Facebook is the newest place for prostitutes to find customers, and for those clients to find women willing to do anything, for a price.Almost everybody knows what a prostitute is.”(She is) some woman who’s having sex with men. She’s just doing that because she’s making money,” 90 year-old Helen Brooks told FOX23.But 90 year-old Helen isn’t familiar with how 21st Century working girls find their clients; Facebook.”I don’t use the Facebook. I am totally dumb about that sort of thing,” Helen said.The face book report comes after a Columbia University professor followed 170 New York prostitutes for one year. After a crack down on Craigslist, prostitutes are making more and more friends. That’s not good news for Renee Burke, a mom of five who lives in Owasso.”I am, and my children are on Facebook, and it’s disturbing to think that that’s how they’re getting their clients,” she told FOX23.The women, and sometimes men, can essentially go undercover and hide behind a user name in the Facebook world.”It seems that would circumvent any filters that are already in place,” Burke said.Using the site for prostitution is illegal according to Facebook’s user agreement and Renee says the company better crack down if wants to keep people like her logged in.”It’s going to continue, and then Facebook isn’t going to be a place that families want to be.”Tulsa Police say in Green Country Facebook is probably used to connect prostitutes with their regular customers. Other sites,,, and are a few of the top sites Tulsa police say local prostitutes use to find clients.Those sites are modeled after Craigslist and FOX23 found local women and suggestive pictures saying they’re willing to do just about anything.”The internet has purposes an potential for great good, but everything has it’s opposites, and it doesn’t surprise me that it’s right there,” Burke said.It’s not Facebook, but she is just as worried about these lesser known sites a few mouse clicks away from her child’s eyes.”Its just unfortunate and we as parents need to be really vigilant about our supervision of our children.”The woman are skirting the law because the sites say they’re escorts and being an escort isn’t against the law. But police say anytime money is exchanged, and sexual favors are performed could get both parties in handcuffs