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BEST UNDERWATER HOTELS IN THE WORLD

9 Best Underwater Hotels in the World

BY MADISON DRAGNA 53.6K+

Edited By Alex Santiago

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Experience the beauty of the world that lies below the water’s surface when you stay at one of these awesome underwater hotels. These unique hotels offer a unique look into marine life, offering anything from underwater rooms, clubs and spas to one-of-a-kind restaurants. See what lies below the water at these top underwater hotels in the world.

The Manta Resort
The Manta Resort

The Manta Resort

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This romantic resort in Zanzibar has a number of luxury accommodations to offer travelers a retreat while exploring this picturesque island oasis. However, The Manta Resort is best known for its three-level underwater room that lies 13 feet below the surface. Only accessible by boat, this private accommodation has a top deck perfect for sunbathing, while the bottom floor is completely submerged underwater. This underwater hotel room offers 360 degrees of underwater views, so you can truly get a sense of underwater life.

Atlantis The Palm Hotel, waterpark, Dubai
Atlantis The Palm Hotel, waterpark, Dubai

Atlantis The Palm, Dubai

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Atlantis The Palm in Dubai is found on the iconic palm-shaped island, an artificial, man-made island structure. No room in this luxury hotel will disappoint, however, the two underwater suites here are truly remarkable. With floor to ceiling windows, these underwater rooms boast views of the 65,000 underwater creatures that live among the ruins of the “lost city of Atlantis.” If the views don’t impress, the service will, as suites also come with a personal butler.$20 for your 1st month of phone service.Ad by Visible See More

Conrad Maldives Rangali Island
Conrad Maldives Rangali Island

Conrad Rangali Island

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Found in the bucket list-worthy Maldives, Conrad Maldives Rangali Island is home to villas, suites and a three-bedroom villa that features an underwater bedroom. However, the bedroom in the Muraka house isn’t the only place to experience the wonder of the sea here. Ithaa, an underwater restaurant on the island, is situated 16 feet below the water’s surface. This upscale establishment offers an intimate experience as there are only 12 seats available. Expect a menu full of delectable and locally-sourced seafood options. Known as the first “all glass undersea restaurant,” dining here will truly be a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

Resorts World Sentosa
Resorts World Sentosa

Resorts World Sentosa

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Resorts World Sentosa is found on Singapore’s island of Sentosa and is home to one of the world’s largest aquariums. Guests here can book a two-story townhouse along the aquarium for an underwater experience. These suites offer upstairs access that leads to a patio above the surface, while the lower level features underwater views.

InterContinental Shanghai Wonderland
InterContinental Shanghai Wonderland

InterContinental Shanghai Wonderland

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Built inside an abandoned quarry, this luxury resort found 30 miles from Shanghai, China is a unique accommodation that has two underwater floors. Opened in 2018, Shimao Wonderland Intercontinental boasts incredible views of the surrounding natural scenery. If you can’t book one of the underwater suites, there is a restaurant here, Mr. Fisher, that is found one level below the water’s surface, so you can still enjoy an underwater experience without booking a lower level room here.

Huvafen Fushi Maldives
Huvafen Fushi Maldives

Huvafen Fushi Maldives

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Another underwater Maldives hotel to consider for your next vacation here is Huvafen Fushi Maldives. This boutique hotel doesn’t have underwater rooms but underwater treatment rooms for its onsite spa, Huvafen Spa & PEARL. There is nothing more relaxing than receiving a massage while surrounded by the soothing colors and sounds of the ocean. Guests here not only enjoy the underwater spa but also a private white sand beach, infinity pool, and premier snorkeling spots here.

Niyama Maldives
Niyama Maldives

Niyama Maldives

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Visit the world’s first underwater club at Niyama Maldives. This Maldives resort is home to Subsix, which is found 20 feet below the surface of the water. You don’t have to be a night owl to enjoy this subsurface club. You can reserve the club for your wedding or private party. However, Subsix is also open to the public for breakfast, lunch and dinner too. For many, dancing under the sea is a great way to end the night in this beautiful spot in the Indian Ocean.

Utter Inn, Sweden
Utter Inn, Sweden

Utter Inn

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This modest underwater hotel is found in Sweden. The Utter Inn isn’t necessarily a luxury accommodation like others found on this list, however, this underwater lake hotel offers a unique experience for those visiting Sweden. Accessible only by boat, guests enjoy sunbathing on the wooden deck above the surface, while embracing undersea views down below in the rooms. This underwater hotel is one of the most affordable aquatic lodging options on this list.

Jules’ Undersea Lodge
Jules’ Undersea Lodge

Jules Undersea Lodge

PRICES & PHOTOS 

This Key Largo underwater hotel has a unique stipulation to stay here – you must scuba dive down 21 feet to reach this underwater abode. If you’re not a certified diver, expect to spend a couple of hours in a diving course before you can head below to your night’s destination. Jules Undersea Lodge is the only hotel on this list that is completely underwater. The lodge has all the comforts of home though, such as a full kitchen, hot showers, and entertainment options like music, movies and books. And of course, there are outstanding views of the ocean and marine life too.

SEX ON THE INTERNET

Edited By Alex Santiago

People browsing for sexual content, like those searching for illicit love, guarded their anonymity and frequented hard-to-find addresses, often at night. Like those caught up in affairs, they could become obsessive, protective of their time in the zone. Like those donning drag, they assumed new names and created parallel identities. The tech writer (and self-described nethead) J. C. Herz would make the point in her 1995 book Surfing on the Internet that the wired universe offered “gender options that don’t physically exist. For instance, the LambdaMOO virtual world gives users a choice of male, female, neutral, neither, royal (the royal ‘we’), and the natty, insouciant ‘splat’ (*) option.” Women and men would assume cross identities: a member of one sex, disguised as another, would engage in cybersex with Net partners of either gender, or both, depending on the mood and circumstance. This elasticity unleashed a new freedom to experiment, fantasize, and role-play.

As the digital age bloomed, sexual variety reigned. In the late ’80s and early ’90s, cybersex had a limited connotation: virtual-reality kink. VR sex, theoretically, involved people in proximity or in distant locations donning special suits and/or cybergloves and/or headgear, festooned with wires, and then remotely diddling their partners and sharing a simulated sexual experience, sometimes accompanied by SFX audiovisuals. (CGI—computer-generated imagery—was a huge gaming and cinematic breakthrough in the 1990s.) Cybersex was sim stim. For a time it went by the cringe-worthy name “teledildonics.” And at the time, it was pure hokum. (In 1997, Mike Myers, with a debt to Wilhelm Reich—and to films such as BarbarellaPutney SwopeSleeper, and Liquid Sky—introduced “fembots” to explore the concept of robo-shagging in his Swinging Sixties spoof Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery. But for a species that now got its babies from test tubes, why shouldn’t a geek try to get his ya-yas out by way of Alpha Centauri?)

Back then, it was called cybersex. Or virtual sex. Or netsex. And much of it was emerging from Usenet and newsgroups. In the fantasy forums called MUDs, it was sometimes called TinySex, as Sherry Turkle would note in her 1995 book Life on the Screen: Identity in the Age of the Internet, discussing early “computer-mediated screen communications for sexual encounters. An Internet list of ‘Frequently Asked Questions’ describes the latter activity . . . as people typing messages with erotic content to each other, ‘sometimes with one hand on the keyset, sometimes with two.’ ”

Along came CD-ROMs and DVDs—interactive discs that could be slipped into a disk drive or game console—which allowed users to issue simple commands and choose various options or outcomes in their sexual entertainment. There were Internet forums where people could post erotic stories (or add to others’ stories)—many of which would evolve into multipart series—that would attract tremendous followings. There were hatchling websites that stole printed porn pictures and posted them as their own; sites that featured virtual strip blackjack; sites where online models popped up in tiny matchbook-size peep-holes, responding to keyboard commands (“How about removing those fish-nets?”). The Internet began to micropander to every type of sexual connoisseur.about the author

David Friend is a Vanity Fair editor, journalist, and Emmy-winning documentary producer.

According to Forbes, by the end of the ’90s there were half a million sex sites, with one hundred fresh ones popping up each week, many of them very profitable very quickly due to the sales of ads, products, and links to spicier paywall-protected areas. Come 2000, the porn industry’s total yearly take was some $2 billion in Web business alone.

The Web, by definition, offered virtual sex. Much of it was literally autoerotic. The solitary online sexual encounter, for many men and women, came to be regarded as noncommittal, less emotionally taxing, and less trouble. Why deal with the challenges or rewards of another’s needs, when one could satisfy one’s own—and so efficiently? For many online users, the synthetic actually replaced the actual: online sex became not an expression of mutual connection but of selfish release. But this was only half the picture.

For millions of others, the earliest forms of cybersex brought the promise of genuine engagement, not alienation. Strangers typing words to one another—digitally stimulating a partner by writing on a keyboard—could experience real-time interaction on an entirely new plane. Online sex brought InstaGrat. It boosted the ego. It offered a number and variety of potential partners that were theoretically limitless. It allowed for a semisanctioned embrace of new taboos, which was arousing in and of itself. Its virtual nature made “online cheating” arguably more acceptable to one’s real-life partner or one’s conscience. Its attendant anonymity could be exhilarating and often emancipating. Its seamless utility (from the comfort of one’s home) was liberating. Its relative safety, to many users, beat its real-world equivalent hands down, because electronic transmission came with zero risk of STDs.Enter the Con Man

One of the earliest Net-sex horror stories involved an online skeeve who turned out to be a con artist. Susie Bright remembers it vividly. One of the West Coast leaders of sex-positive feminism, Bright in the early 1990s had left her job editing On Our Backs. Bright recalls that she had first gone online because she’d heard that on a computer bulletin board called The WELL a community of people was engaged in a discussion thread labeled “Why I Love Susie Bright.”

Bright now says, in a series of interviews and emails, “The WELL was like the shiny new toy that everyone in the media was fascinated with. Soon, of course, came the con man. The first time there was a sex hoax on the Internet—at least that I am aware of—it happened at The WELL. There was a private women’s conference that only [female] members could be part of. There were quite a lot of women on The WELL—for an Internet group, it was a shocking number. That was part of what made The WELL so cool. It didn’t even occur to me that computers were supposed to be a guy-only space. [As part of ] this private women’s conference—it was more gossipy and talking about our private lives and things you didn’t necessarily want everyone else to see in public—someone started a topic called ‘That Son-of-a-Bitch.’ ” She laughs. “Sounds promising, right?

“This woman told a story about how she’d met this wonderful man on The WELL and it just all seemed so incredibly touching and poignant and like a match made in heaven. It’s hard to capture how innocent we all were. So we were ‘listening’ to her describe how sexy it was. By the end of the story, as you can imagine, he turned out to be a con artist. He [had seemed] really, sincerely interested in her—‘We’re going to have dates and so on’—and then he had these emergencies where she had to send him money. That was when the worm turned. But by then she was so in love with him, so infatuated with their virtual affair: they’d had phone sex; they’d done so much [online]. So when he started extorting money from her, she didn’t even see it [coming].”

“Along comes the Web, and I dropped into this world in which I believed my body would be accepted.”

Bright remembers that one of the other WELL participants chimed in. “The woman stopped her and said, ‘This same thing is happening to me and I haven’t told anyone because I’m so embarrassed and ashamed and I’m starting to feel like a chump. And here we are, we’re both these ultra-smarty-pants, computer-genius women—how can this be happening to us?’ They compared notes—and it was the same man.” When they floated his name to the wider community of The WELL, Bright recalls, “there was complete pandemonium. They outed him. And he had been doing this with so many other chicks, it was just [crazy].”Most Popular

Bright recalls her reaction: “I’m sitting there at my keyboard and I just dropped my cup of coffee, because I had just fucked this guy in New York City a couple of weeks earlier. In real life. And I felt really embarrassed because, unlike the others, I had not given him money. I had merely had sex with him. I wasn’t that attracted to him. I was on a book tour. It was proximity. Yes, he had been a big fanboy and told me how much he just loved-loved-loved the idea of seeing me and he would do anything for me when I came to New York. Then I said, ‘Well, we can meet.’ He was based in New Jersey. This guy has all these super-brainy women dangling on a string. [He] was, as far as I knew, the first Internet cad.”More Freedom

There were downsides, there were upsides. My friend Stephen Mayes, a respected photo editor and champion of photojournalists, insists that the Web had a largely salutary effect on the sex lives and love lives of many gay men. “I had had an incredible disability in the gay world of never having picked up a man in a bar,” Mayes confides over drinks at a speakeasy in Manhattan’s East Village. “What the Internet did was give me a new awareness of myself. Previously, the gay bar scene revolved around a body fascism: a prescriptive sense of muscles, tight abs, shoulders that you had to have. And I am less of a physical specimen in that way. So in a bar, my eyes had always been filled with fear—the fear of rejection. Along comes the Web, and I dropped into this world in which I believed my body would be accepted. The Internet released me from all that fear. It suddenly gave me a freedom to meet with men in a way that I’d never experienced before.”

Mayes believes that when it came to the stereotypical sexual aesthetic of the gay man, the digital realm had much to recommend it. “The gay world seems to lend itself to this idea of sharing stuff,” he insists. “It’s open-source, like the Web. It has that reputation: open relationships, sharing partners, etcetera. It has, historically, a sense of being furtive—pushed into the underground for centuries—but once outside social constraints, it was a lot freer within a private, underground context.” In many ways, these were also the hallmarks of the early digital space: a private, members-only society with its own language and codes and libertine ethos that existed under the radar.

At the same time, Mayes recalls, the digital photography revolution of the 1990s served to enhance the sex lives of those who were drawn to the visual, to exchanging private pictures, and to creating homespun erotica that might invite and satisfy the fellow male gaze. In previous decades, many gay men, he says, had relied on Polaroids (which required no processing) since they were concerned about bringing their undeveloped film to the corner drugstore or one-hour photo shop. “There was a social stigma,” says Mayes, “and, more importantly, legal issues in taking your film to the lab. Sodomy was illegal in places like Texas until the 2000s. So the digital camera freed up people.” And those intimate digital photos could be easily traded electronically. In the early days of the Web, Mayes notes, “the digital sexual image is very private—you take it, put it up on your computer, share it just with the people you want to see it. No lab technician! In the late ’90s this changed. If you wanted to, you could place an explicit photo online to attract partners, and you felt it was private. You had to register under a screen name. You were addressing members like yourself. But it was a misguided belief that you were addressing a private club. In fact, anyone could register and, more than that, you could download the image—and suddenly your own photo [would be] feral, animal, developing a life of its own. For all the benefits that these websites brought us—gay and straight and otherwise—little did we know the extent to which our personal images would become public commodities that had the potential to spin out of control.”Online Dating

The Internet, for many, was a virtual singles bar. On the largest dating sites, chemistry (both sexual and interpersonal) would be replaced by algebra. Algorithms that had been designed to sift through a voluminous database of attributes listed in members’ profiles would sort and rank potential partners’ likelihood of attraction and relationship longevity. Individual subscribers would then be presented with a slate of possible dates who, in time, might be possible mates.

Social media would not only help define one’s persona and sexual expressiveness, but would also have long-term effects on social interaction, free speech, and political change.

Matchmaking services, of course, had been around for decades. But the Web brought a new level of respectability to such artificially induced interaction. Little by little, the fix-up began to lose its total-loser stigma. In the digital age, the unattached, no matter what age, came to see e-dating as socially acceptable, safe, and efficient. In fact, the algorithms and the screening process conferred a certain authority. (At the time, columnist Michael Wolff would describe online dating as a new and rather vanilla way of mating: “a perfectly decent, unremarkable, squares ville thing to do.”) By comparison, the singles scene, the bar scene began to be regarded as crass.

Dating sites took off. And this ’90s phenomenon so revolutionized the way urbanites coupled up and settled down that today, according to the New Yorker’s Nick Paumgarten, “fee-based dating Web sites” take in more than a billion dollars annually and have become “the third most common way for people to meet. (The most common are ‘through work/school’ and ‘through friends/family.’)” As the dating dot-coms grew, so did a new set of online meeting places that turned one’s wider net of contacts into their own raison d’être. These were the start-up social networks. And in terms of the wider culture they would become far more influential than the dating sites. Social media would not only help define one’s persona and sexual expressiveness (shaping one’s real-world reputation and online demeanor in the eyes of potential suitors, friends, strangers, and even potential employers), but would also have long-term effects on social interaction, free speech, and political change. Services like TheGlobe.com and SixDegrees.com (well before Friendster or LinkedIn, before MySpace or Facebook) were the online hubs where communities of users gathered to converse and exchange information about shared interests, pastimes, or backgrounds.

Sex, of course, was central to the origin story of social media. “We often forget that social networking, early on, was really all about sexual stereotyping,” says my friend Rachel Winter, the film producer. “Facebook was founded as a way of rating women’s looks. From that nucleus—devised by male students at Harvard—came everything that followed, including the trolling and shaming. At this stage I would say: let’s all take a breather and ban social media for five years. We’d all be better off.”

83 SEX TACTICS FOR BETTER SEX LIFE

1. Masturbated every morning for a month

This will keep your genitals in good condition and your body will be stimulated to produce hormones needed for libido. Also private part muscles are exercising and in continued development.

2. Dry hump more.

Dry humping might be thought of as an awkward teen activity from ye olde high school days, but as one writer found, dry humping as an adult actually slaps (or rather, grinds?). The stimulation is on point, it’s not too direct in case you have an overly sensitive clitoris, and the hotness of keeping your clothes on and still pawing at each other is a mental turn-on too.

3. Try a cock ring.

If your partner has a penis, a penis or cock ring can really rev up something that’s already good. By restricting blood flow to the penis, the ring makes their erection harder and stronger (also helpful if they have issues finishing too early or staying hard). And of course, there are tons of vibrating cock rings out there that may make orgasming for you way easier too. It’s a win-win.

4. Pay more attention to your aftercare routine

Aftercare” is a common BDSM thing, where each partner takes time to check in with each other and care for one another after sex. It’s especially important in BDSM where intense scenes might have each person experimenting with different dynamics that don’t reflect how each person actually thinks of their partner. But that doesn’t mean you can’t also have aftercare worked into vanilla sex. Take time to check in with your partner afterwards and cuddle, give, or get a glass of water, and re-affirm your care for one another.

5. Watch a sexy show together.

Turn on Witcher or Outlander and let the steamy scenes influence how you spend your night.

6. Try a sex game.

You don’t necessarily need to buy one either. There are plenty of sex games you can play with a partner that’ll turn you both on that don’t require a board or separate card deck. Just two willing participants down to have a very good time.

7. Try a nipple clamp.

They’re cheap, don’t take up a lot of space, and nipple clamps can be just as pleasurable with or without a partner.

8. Invest in some secret BDSM jewelry

There’s luxury and then there’s luxury. If you’re just bored of spending money on the usual, ball out and get some bougie bondage jewelry, like this fahhhncy Kiki de Montparnasse handcuff set that looks, to the average person, like a very chic bracelet. It’ll be your little secret.

9. Try a remote control vibrator

Whether you’re handing the reins to your partner to drive or just over fiddling with the buttons on your vibrator right as you’re about to reach peak, remote controlled vibes are everywhere nowadays and make masturbation way easier. You’ll wonder how you ever lived without one once you try it out.

10. Try kneeling beside your partner during oral, instead of in front of them.

If you typically kneel in front of your partner during a blow job, try kneeling beside them. Not only will you give them a great view of your ass, you also might find it more comfortable and easier for you (or them) to stimulate your clit while you’re giving it to him.

11. Try sacral massage

If you’re going to experiment with anal, anal foreplay is a must. Try giving or receiving a sacral massage, aka massaging the area just above the butt crack for 15-20 minutes. It’ll help release tension and loosen the whole area up.

12. Don’t be afraid to initiate!

If your partner is usually the one who intiates sex, switch things up by showing them just how much they turn you on and flip the switch so you start things off first. Everyone loves feeling like their partner just can’t resist them

13. Lean into your sexual tension.

Just because you’ve been with your partner forever doesn’t mean you still can’t get butterflies for them. Refrain from jumping their bones at first sight like you normally do, and let the sexual tension build up so you can have an even more cathartic orgasm.

14. Add CBD into the mix.

There are plenty of CBD products out there for everything, and sex is no exception. Pick your poison of whatever CBD lube or arousal gel of your choice and get to town feeling all loosey-goosey (minus the paranoia that comes with THC).

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15. Make hand jobs the main event.

Sex is so much more than just penetrative sex, and backing away and focusing on foreplay with the same intensity as you do PIV sex can zuzh some hotness into your routine.

16. Do your errands normally, only with Ben Wa balls inside you.

Ben Wa balls, or kegel balls, are little weighted balls that you can insert into your vagina for added sensation. Pop a pair in, and go about your normal routine. The extra attention you’ll be paying to each roll and wiggle of your hips will turn you on all day.

17. Forgive and forget with some super-sultry makeup sex.

All couples fight (it’s a part of a healthy relationship to have disagreements) but what better way to get into each other’s good graces again than with some vulnerable, tender makeup sex? If that’s not your vibe, there’s also must-have-you-now standing sex against a wall for an added layer of urgency. Either way, there’s a sexy way to move on after a fight.

18. Get some cheap accessories to make shower sex all the better.

Shower sex might be steamy and sexy in the movies, but IRL, it’s often not. If your mind is worrying about whether or not you’re going to slip or you’re starting to feel cold because the water ain’t on you at that moment, you can’t really enjoy yourself to maximum capacity! Thankfully, there are easy (and mostly cheap!) solutions that can make shower sex way more enjoyable.

19. Heat things up with some at-home gym equipment.

Don’t worry, you don’t need your actual gym’s super-expensive rowing machine to make any of these work. Try hanging from a pull-up bar while your partner lifts you up onto their hips for a sex position that’ll give missionary a break from the ol’ rotation.

20. Use a Tenga Egg for a quick, modified blow job sleeve.

The eggs are hella cute (literally they just look like little Easter eggs) and compact so you can bring one to your boo’s house without worrying that 65% of your overnight bag is just one toy. Snip the top so that there’s openings at both the bottom (it comes with one there) and top, and use that with a squidge of lube for a truly out-of-this-world blowjob experience that also takes a lot of the effort out of it for you.

21. Have your partner try the Kivin method.

This oral sex technique for those pleasuring a woman has the giver approach you from the side, rather than face-on. Annabelle Knight, sex expert at Lovehoney, explains that instead of licking up and down your vulva, your partner should lick side to side and straight across the clitoral hood for an orgasmic feeling.

22. Get on top.

Woman on top provides easier access to your vulva and clitoris than in other positions. Add a vibrator into the mix for even more pleasure.

23. Make a masturbation playlist.

Taking time to focus on your own pleasure and indulging in your ~me time~ is not only fun, it can make sex with a partner better too because you’re learning more about your own body. There’s really no easier way to figure out what you like in bed than by trying

24. Use lube.

Seriously, enough with the stigma that lube is for dried-up older women. You’re not winning extra points by not using it and having sex that could be so much more glidey and enjoyable for both partners. Start with a dime-sized amount, put it on you and your partner’s genitals, and reapply as needed.

25. Ramp up your desire all day by engaging in some light sexting at work.

Foreplay doesn’t just have to be in person. If you’ve got a date later that night, try sending a few flirty or suggestive texts your partner’s way to ensure they’re thinking about you all day.

26. Try the Amazon sex position.

Or any wild sex position. Sex is just as mental as it is physical, and trying out adventurous and empowering novelty positions can do way more for you than you’d think.

27. Don’t be afraid to spread your labia.

Ensure that your partner has easy access to your clitoris by really getting in there and setting up the scene for them. Sure, light vulva licking is great, but why waste time and risk your partner getting lost down there?

28. Try a vibrator with sonic waves.

Your clitoris is like an iceberg. The part that you can see is only a small portion of it. There are nerve endings underneath the visible part that you can’t see or touch. Using a vibrator with sonic pulses (like a loud, booming speaker that shakes your whole body at a club) can help target these nerves and put you in ~touch~ with the otherwise unexplored parts of your clit.

29. Ditch the eye contact in reverse cowgirl.

While sex face-to-face certainly has its moments, change it up by getting on top and facing away from your partner. From here, you have total freedom to make whatever O-face you want, and you can put on a show for them at the same time with your bouncing butt. You contain multitudes.

30. Work on your non-sexual touch.

While this tip is more about putting in work while you’re not having sex, it can totally lead to an overall better sex life. Don’t reserve touching for only when you’re naked. Find a way to work in hair stroking, back rubs, hand holding, anything PG that encourages you and your partner to show physical affection for one another. You’ll learn about each others’ bodies in a way that’s so much deeper than just sex.

31. Zone in on the upper left-hand quadrant of your clitoris.

Megan Andelloux, executive director at the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, says many women find this is the most receptive part of their clit.

32. Try a sex game where you trade off.

Rachel Wright, a licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and sex educator, suggests “stop and start.” You set a timer on your phone for four minutes, where you have that amount of time to do anything to your partner (ranging from kissing to intercourse). Once the time’s up, you switch places and the giver becomes the receiver, and vice versa. This is great for putting an emphasis.

33. Do it in front of a mirror.

Doggie style intercourse in front of a full-length mirror allows you one of the best seats in the house. You can lock eyes tenderly in the mirror or go at it with carnal thrusting, all while checking each other out at the same time. Nice.

34. Get a pair of nipple clamps.

Nipple clamps are great because they can provide hands-free stimulation during sex. Slap a pair on and your hands are free to still touch yourself during foreplay or sex. You can adjust the intensity throughout too, getting tighter or looser as you approach

35. Prioritize oral sex.

Have a few nights where the main focus isn’t penetrative sex, but just you receiving oral sex. Communicate with your partner so you can both discover what works best for you in terms of giving and receiving. And when we say a few nights, we mean a few nights. Expecting to cram life-changing oral into your lives via one night puts way too much pressure on both of you.

36. Real talk: Roughly 70 percent of women need more clitoral stimulation to O during sex — so reach down and touch yourself during the deed!

You feel in control of your O, and he’s super turned on. Win-win.

37. For a twist on missionary, lie on your back, and lift your legs up and over to one side as he enters you.

Raising your legs makes you supertight, and the angle of your hips means he’ll hit spots that rarely get TLC.

38. Get him to skip the in-and-out thrusts and, uh, stir with his penis instead.

He’ll stimulate every inch of you (motion of the ocean and all that…).

39. Sit on the edge of the washing machine, and wrap your legs around his waist as he enters you.

Helpful hint: The cotton cycle provides the strongest vibrations.

40. In reverse-cowgirl, lean back (instead of forward toward his feet).

It’s a primo G-spot angle for you and the illusion of a Kardashi-ass for him.

41. The no. 1 rule for a great blow job: Use your mouth (obvs!) and your hands.

Take the head in your mouth, and lick and swirl like you would a soft-serve cone. Mean while, use your hands to grip, squeeze, and stroke the length of his penis. Don’t keep up the same motion — variety of sensation is key!

42. Instead of pleasingeach other simultaneously during 69 (so hard to focus!), take turns.

One person goes to town, while the other groans and moans about how good it feels.

43. While he’s giving you oral, have him insert a finger or two and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion.

Internal and external stimulation boosts your orgasm chances.

44. Lube up!

Both you and your partner, before and/or during The Naughty. Almost 50 percent of women say lube makes it easier to orgasm. And forget the myth that it’s only for older women — all the cool kids are doing it!

45. If you have no cluewhether your partner’s dirty-talk meter is set to “a little naughty” or “downright filthy,” do a sneaky little test.

Ask, “What would you like me to do to you? Details, please.” And see what words he uses and how risqué he’s willing to get. Then follow his lead.

46. Usually get oral with your legs spread?

Intensify your O by stretching your legs straight out, stimulating the pelvic muscles you use to climax. It’s a crazy-good new way.

47. Gently hold his face still, tell him to stop moving, and let him simply receive your kisses for a minute.

That way, whether you like it slow or hot and heavy, he’ll know how to kiss you back.

48. Vintage Cosmo Tip, June 1972:

“All women should try for a little more variety … a little more shock value. put on a wig. or greet your man at the door with a martini in your hand and nothing on but high heels.”

Our 2015 road test: Naked except for black Manolos and a long blonde wig very unlike my curly brown hair, I was already three “test” martinis deep when I wobbled to the door and greeted R.M.P. (Reluctant Male Participant, aka my boyfriend of almost two years). First, he seemed surprised, then slightly scared. But with some R-rated coaxing, I could tell he was getting into it. After we had sex, he gave me puppy-dog eyes. “Can you take that wig off now?” “Nooo, this girl is fun, I like this girl!” I replied. Did I mention I’d had three martinis? “Wasn’t it hot cheating on your girlfriend with a blonde?” I asked. He shrugged and shook his head: “I missed my girlfriend.” Then we ordered burgers, and I kept my wig on while I ate mine.

49. Just started dating? Set the precedent and make sure you come first.

Women often focus on their guy’s orgasm and treat themselves as an afterthought. Since we’re all creatures of habit, doing the reverse pays off in the long run.

50. Ask him to trace his tongue over your thin-skinned spots: wrists, inner knees, behind your ears.

It’ll make you shiver.

51. While standing with your back against his chest, have him reach around and touch you so all you can see are his hands all over you.

Totally sexy.

52. Wrap your fingers in an “O” shape around the base of his shaft, and move them in tandem with your mouth.

Use lots of saliva to ease the movement, and he won’t be able to tell where your mouth ends and your hand begins. Gently cup his balls with your other hand and you’re golden.

53. Try the “commercial sex” game.

Start getting it on during the commercials of your favorite show, then untangle as soon as the show comes back. Sexy show? Copy their moves. As you graduate from makeouts to oral to intercourse (and back?), the teasing will be out of control.

54. Keep your dress on or just push your underwear aside to have sex.

The immediacy of keeping clothes on is hot — like you can’t wait to have each other.

55. The hole at the tip of his penis is called the meatus, which is the worst name given to anything, ever.

Meatus! But it’s sensitive during arousal. With your tongue, apply medium pressure on and off. He’ll be shocked it feels so good!

56. When you’re close to climaxing, tighten and relax like you’re Kegeling.

This alone can sometimes trigger an O (and it feels amazing for a guy too).

57. The shower is made for the quickie.

The ideal position for you is bent over, aiming the showerhead at your hot spot while he’s doing his thing from behind. No removable showerhead? Slick his fingers with shower gel, and have him reach around and give you pleasure.

58. Create a secret code that translates to sexytimes.

Maybe “get me a dirty martini” means “let’s blow this joint … and then each other.”

59. Remind yourself how much you turn him on.

Seeing his face as he’s lost in ecstasy — and realizing you’re making it happen — can be the push you need to cross the finish line.

60. Touch yourself — beneath your bath jets.

While watching Scandal, whatever works for you — to get to know what sensations do it for you. Are you into counterclockwise clitoral strokes? Nipple stimulation? Find out—then bring your favorite moves to your next sex.

61. Advanced blow-job move:

Twist your hand as you move your mouth up and down his shaft like you’re tracing the grooves of a corkscrew, and slide it over his tip each time you get to it. He’ll worship you.

62. Want more oral and less jackhammer but can’t seem to say so?

Start out with a sext. Type “I can’t stop thinking about your mouth on me tonight,” throw in a kiss emoji, and hit Send. The message will be received.

63. Bring a bullet vibrator to bed.

The Rabbit gets all the glory, but using a bullet vibe on your clit during doggy is a total game changer.

64. While pleasuring him with your mouth, bring his hand down to touch you.

Cover his fingers with yours so you can make sure his touches are exactly what you need to climax. It’ll arouse him even more to see you taking control of his movements.

65. Lead with a compliment.

Say “I love the way you…” before suggesting a new move (“it would turn me on so much if you used your fingers like this…”).

66. Turn up the tease factor by letting him enter you for a hot second, then going straight back into your foreplay of choice.

Think of it as giving him a taste of the main course during cocktail hour. It’ll leave him hungry — no, salivating — for more.

67. Get sex on the brain by reading a steamy book before a date.

You’ll feel more sensual during the deed as you visualize a hot story line. And he never has to know!

68. Have your guy scribble down a “menu” of the top three moves that drive him crazy, and you do the same.

Then swap lists, and take turns serving up the goods à la carte!

69. Perfect your striptease.

Stage an entrance from another room, take a sensual walk around him, and slowly shed a slip to reveal a corset. (Or a thong and nipple tassels! Whatever’s your jam.) By the time you finally straddle him, you’ll both be raring to go. P.S. Leave on your heels for extra sass.

70. Switching hot and cold sensations feels amazing for him during oral.

If you’re not into the ol’ ice-cube-in-the-cheek trick, try alternating oral with drinking something cold or warm. Even easier: Lightly blow air over him after having had him in your mouth.

71. Vintage Cosmo Tip, March 1989:

“Unleash your imagination: you might drive down to the local lovers’ lane like teenagers or swap houses with a friend and make love in her bedroom.”

Our 2015 road test: We didn’t go to lovers’ lane because where even is that, but non-bedroom sex is one of those things I always mean to do but never get around to. I finally got around to it — although we kept it low-key and only ventured as far as the desk. Funny thing about adulthood: Spontaneous desk sex is hot, but clearing the desk beforehand in order to avoid any postcoital broken tchotchkes or destroyed tea rose arrangements is not. Ditto when R.M.P. paused the action to put a pillow under my back. Ultimately, the desk lends itself best to doggy-style — but R.M.P. and I did thoroughly enjoy giving the bed a break.

72. A great gizmo for scoring some dual pleasure?

A vibrating penis ring. Your guy will enjoy a soft vibration on his shaft while you get bonus targeted clitoral stimulation with each of his thrusts. It also helps guys achieve fuller, harder erections.

73. Long-distance?

Send him a care package for his … package. Fill a box with some sexy new lingerie, lube, and maybe a sex toy, and send it to his front door with this note: “We’ll need this on my next visit.”

74. Not being “allowed” to make any noise during sex can be a huge turn-on, especially when something feels so good, you just want to express it!

Try this for a spin: Stuff your thong or his tie into his mouth, then do dirty, dirty things to him until he’s digging his nails into his palms to keep from ripping that gag out.

75. A great couple habit to get into is to kiss every day — for more than just a couple of seconds.

It wards off the perilous roommate effect, especially if you live together and lately have been spending more time doing chores together than checking each other out.

76. Getting busy in a public place is a huge risk, thereby doubling the wattage of your hot rendezvous.

Your best bet to pulling it off is to keep your clothes on (wear a skirt and no undies for easier access) and do it in a place where you’ll hear someone coming, like in the middle of a stairwell — the footsteps on the stairs will tip you off that it’s time to get moving before you get caught.

77. The cherry on top when it comes to an amazing BJ? Eye contact.

Give a wink or some smize action, and he’ll be putty in your … mouth.

78. Put a pillow or two under your butt to elevate your hips during missionary sex — and up the odds of his hitting your G-spot.

This will change your life, we swear.

79. For ladies only:

Have your partner lie on her side, propping herself up on her elbow, and straddle one of her legs so your clits rub together, all the while making eye contact. Grind on. Scissoring’s a classic for a reason.

80. Vintage Cosmo Tip, October 2002: “Check your inhibitions at the door, and watch each other while touching yourselves.”

Our 2015 road test: Now that R.M.P. and I have been banging on the regs for a while, like many long-term couples, our orgasms are pretty wham-bam-let’s-watch-Netflix. We rarely take the time to stop and smell the sex roses, and thanks to the logistics of our favorite respective positions, we rarely see each other’s O faces. Sitting on opposite edges of the bed, me with my fave bullet vibe, him with just his hand, felt pretty voyeuristic — in a hot way — and I definitely felt closer to him afterward.

81. Lest we (and he) forget, the clitoris extends down our labia in the shape of a wishbone. So he should lick or stroke the labia — not just the clit — while he’s down there.

Hell-O!

82. After a shower, get him to take you from behind while you’re leaning over the bathroom sink and looking at your hot, wet self in the fogged-up mirror.

You’ll get a front-row view to all the seriously hot action and none of the stress of filming it. Nice!

83. Ask him first, but if he gives you the green light, hold a small vibrator against the underside of his shaft or on his perineum.

That’s the super nerve-packed area that lies between his balls and his butt — while you’re going down on him. Start the action off with your vibe’s lowest setting and then slowly increase the intensity as his arousal grows.

Buen Appetit!!!!!

ROMANCE SCAMS ALERT

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Romance Scams

By A. Santiago

More and more Americans are turning to dating websites and mobile apps in hopes of finding love and companionship. A Pew Research Center study revealed that nearly 60 percent of U.S. adults consider online dating a good way to meet people, and Match.com, one of the most popular dating sites, says people 50 and older represent its fastest-growing share of users. But seeking romantic bliss online can have a major downside: Cyberspace is full of scammers eager to take advantage of lonely hearts.

The con works something like this: You post a dating profile and up pops a promising match — good-looking, smart, funny and personable. This potential mate claims to live in another part of the country or to be abroad for business or a military deployment. But he or she seems smitten and eager to get to know you better, and suggests you move your relationship to a private channel like email or a chat app.

Over weeks or months you feel yourself growing closer. You make plans to meet in person, but for your new love something always comes up. Then you get an urgent request. There’s an emergency (a medical problem, perhaps, or a business crisis), and your online companion needs you to wire money quickly. He or she will promise to pay it back, but that will never happen. Instead, the scammer will keep asking for more until you finally realize you’ve been had.

Phony suitors also seek out targets on social media, and they are increasingly active. The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) received more than 25,000 reports about romance scams in 2019, a nearly threefold increase since 2015. Victims’ losses totaled $201 million, almost 40 percent more than in 2018 and the most for any type of consumer fraud.

The older the victim, the heavier the financial toll, according to the FTC — the median individual loss for people aged 70 and over was $10,000, compared to $2,600 for all victims.

Romance scammers are smooth operators and can take their time to set their trap. Watch out for these red flags if you’re looking for love and companionship online